Questions for couples: 39 questions to play as a game

Questions about dates

• Would you take dance classes together?
• Would you offer to pay on a first date?
• Would you trade a fancy dinner for a picnic in the park?
• Do you put your phone away on a date?
• Would you sing karaoke on a date?

Questions about travel

• Would you move to another country for love?
• Is it fine for partners to go on holiday without each other?
• Would you go backpacking with a partner for a month?
• Would you buy a one-way ticket without a plan?
• Would you live abroad for a year just to try it?
• Would you go on holiday with a partner's parents?

Questions about food

• Would you try any food at least once?
• Do you love breakfast in bed?
• Are you happy to share your dessert?
• Would you take a cooking class together on holiday?

Questions about everyday life and money

• Should a home have pets?
• Would you let a pet sleep in your bed?
• Do you think couples should split every bill evenly?
• Do you need time alone to recharge?
• Do you expect chores to be shared exactly in half?
• Do you want to live close to your family?

Questions about feelings

• Do you find it easy to talk about your feelings?
• Are you usually the first to say sorry?
• Can you fall asleep before an argument is settled?
• Do you get jealous easily?
• Would you go to couples therapy if things got hard?

Questions about the future

• Do you want to get married one day?
• Do you want kids?
• Would you live with a partner before getting married?
• Would you like to retire in another country?
• Would you love a big wedding with everyone you know?

Questions about dreams

• Would you quit your job to chase a dream?
• Do you dream of a home by the sea?
• Do you dream of starting your own business?
• Would you keep working if you won the lottery?
• Could you live in a tiny house on wheels?
• Would you get a matching tattoo with a partner?
• Do you believe in love at first sight?
• Could you make a long-distance relationship work?

How to play them as a game

1. Each of you writes yes, maybe or no for every question, without looking.
2. Swap and read out only the questions where you gave the same answer. Those are your matches.
3. Pick one match that could become a plan, like a picnic or a cooking class, and put a date on it.

Tips for a good round

• Keep the "no" answers to yourselves. The point is to find what you share, not to argue.
• Play a theme at a time. Seven questions take about ten minutes.
• Come back to the future questions every few months. Answers change, and that is fine.

Play them in the app

Flinkos Duo does the hiding for you: you each answer on your own phone, whenever you like, and only see the questions you both answered the same way. Matches go onto a shared to-do list, and you choose how spicy the questions get.